You know that girl at every party, work space, or friend group who seems to have the “it” factor. She has the ability to talk, laugh, and flirt effortlessly with anyone. You say to yourself, “How does she do it?” Or maybe you are blessed to be that girl. She has a certain “Je Ne Sais Quoi” ― that certain, “I don’t know what makes her so special, she just is.” But just because this trait is so admired does not mean it’s impossible. Anyone has the ability to be the most admired in the room with the right tools and mindset.
1. “TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE”
This does seem to contradict with the above introduction; however, a reason why “that girl” is so well liked is because she is true to herself. She knows who she is and isn’t afraid express it to the fullest. As William Shakespeare states, “To thine own self be true”.
2. STOP TRYING SO HARD, BE CONFIDENT
Be confident, but confidence cannot be faked — it is earned. Therefore, you must read, become well read in current events, and be an expert in your field. This will shine outwardly in your persona.
3. JUST RELAX
Another reason “that girl” is so lovable is because she carries a calm, relaxed energy. This makes others around her feel at ease, which draws others closer to her.
4. DON’T BE AN ATTENTION HOG
“That girl” receives attention from all. This is not because she chases that attention but it comes naturally through her positive energy. Be inclusive to others. Let them know you truly appreciate them, and see them on an equal playing field as yourself.
5. WORK ON BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF
Not only focus on being yourself, but be the best version of yourself. Constantly improve whether it’s through dress, work ethic, habits, or personality. Never stop trying to to be the best you.
6. BE GENUINELY INTERESTED IN OTHERS
Talk about yourself less, and ask that other person more questions. Whether we like to admit it or not, we enjoy talking about ourselves. Therefore, if you can allow that person talk and you seem genuinely interested in what he or she is saying, others will want to socialize with you more often. So, its important give eye contact and…
The best way to win anyone over and make them feel special is giving a genuine smile. It’s far easier to influence a person with a smile then with a default face.
8. READ AND MEDITATE ON DALE CARNEGIE’S “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE”
This time-tested bestseller is the perfect guide to ultimate success in the reader’s personal and business life. Be sure to keep a notebook when reading though to easily look back at the amazing points and accurately apply it to your life. The best chapter about this book tells us why there is no point in arguing for the sake of being right- everyone loses. Read more: