Some topics need to be discussed and are more serious than others. Depending on how comfortable and serious you two are, here are some must-needed, inevitable conversations to have with each other. Word to the wise: having these discussions might surely lead to disagreements and arguments- it is up to both of you to have fun with it, remain calm, and be open minded while having these conversations. Remember, “To err is human, to forgive divine” -Alexander Pope.
What Are Some Good Conversations To Have With Your Partner?
Sex
Get the fetishes, boundaries, and expectations out in the open. Make it saucy to spice it up.
Being a Team
Discuss how you will always respect and have each other’s back- no matter the circumstances.
Weird & Excessive Habits
Is your partner constantly posting selfies on Instagram? Does your partner smoke? How about drink excessively? Gamble excessively? Eat junk excessively? Watch TV excessively? Consider if this is acceptable or a deal breaker in the future.
How you will Build a future Empire Together
Speaking of team, talk about how you can push each other to become better people mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Religion
If you are not the same religion, and if it is an important factor- would you accept the other’s beliefs? Would you participate in their methods of worship or would you be supportive?
Kids
It’s a good idea to discuss the idea of having kids, how many many kids you would like, and how to ideally raise them. Make it fun by discussing names you’ve always liked.
Finances
Talk about each other’s financial situation including debts, expenses, short and long term financial goals, the idea of joint accounts, who would contribute to what, and how much.
Jobs
Talk about each other’s career paths, and plan B’s should there be one.
Boundaries of the Opposite Sex
What constitutes flirting? What will you will not approve of?
Vacations
What are each of your ideal vacation spots? Do you prefer the city, while the other prefers the beach?
Fitness
Would you both like to work out together? What are some fitness and health goals? Do you have the attitude: “If we take care of ourselves- we expect our lover too”
Sharing Home Responsibilities
Gone are the days where housework was only the woman’s job. With women working and contributing to the financial pot, it is wise to share and discuss chores. “You like to cook? Great, I love to eat- I”ll help you load the dishwasher”.
In-laws and Family Members
This is a fun one. Discuss expectations and idiosyncrasies of certain family members so no one is in for a surprise.
Who Are Some Role Models?
Who are both of your icons and people you look up to, inspire you?
Health
Talk about health goals as any health concerns that may run in the family.
Location and Primary Residences
Where do you both ideally want to live? Where do your families live?
Weekend planning
What are your ideas of things to do together on the weekend?
Volunteer efforts and charities
What greater good are you each passionate about?
Home Style
Are you more modern, while the other likes victorian aesthetics?
Honesty & Loyalty
Talk about the importance of each. Choose honesty above all.
What Riles up Anger in Both of You
Discuss what really ticks and pisses you off.
Hardships
What is stressing the both of you now? How can you support each other to overcome hardships?
Gratitude
Discuss what you each are grateful for. This should be a discussion every day.
Happiness
What makes the two of you happy?
“It’s good to be loved, but its profound to be understood.” -Ellen and Portia. The important thing is to truly understand your lover’s intentions because words and texts can sometimes get lost through translation.
-GG
